In this episode we chat with Abby Haeg, MS, RD, LD a weight inclusive, anti-diet, dietitian nutritionist specializing in unhealthy relationships with food, body image and eating disorders. 

The relationship we have with food is personal and often times influenced by food rules we have adopted over time. In her work as a dietitian, Abby does an amazing job of helping her clients unpack the food rules and myths they have adopted over time, and helps her clients create a relationship with food that work for them as individuals. In this episode we all get personal, and share our own journey's with food and how they have developed over time.

 

In this episode we discuss:

• Abby's journey to becoming a dietitian.

• What it is like to work with a dietitian, and why it is so important to work with a therapist and dietitian while navigating recovery.

• Kristin's experience as a collegiate athlete, and how normalized disordered eating was within that community.

• Kristen's journey being diagnosed with the celiac gene and her own process of grief and acceptance around removing gluten from her diet.

 

Learn more about Abby on her website, and keep up with her adventures and fun recipes on her instagram.

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Are you someone who feels anxious in relationships preoccupied with how your partner feels about you? Or perhaps have difficulty with trust, opening up emotionally, or really committing in relationships. Or maybe you're in a relationship with someone who identifies as such. Regardless, understanding how we show up in adult intimate relationships has a lot to do with understanding our attachment style. This week one of our hosts, Kristin Mathes discussed the 4 main attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, Anxious, and Anxious/ Avoidant and how our relationships with our primary caregivers early in life have everything to do with how we show up in adult partnership. Understanding our own attachment style and that of our partner can help us understand our emotional needs, help resolve conflict, and work towards developing deeper trust, intimacy, and security in relationships.

In this episode we discuss:

• Kristin teaches the basics of the 4 attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, Anxious, Anxious/Avoidant.

• She helps us understand the basis of how attachment is formed in our earliest years of development with our primary caregivers.

• Kristin offers examples of how attachment styles lend to conflict, dissatisfaction, games of cat- mouse, or a push/ pull dynamic with your partner.

• There is hope! Kristin discusses key factors in how we can use this knowledge to work toward creating trust, intimacy, security, and healthy adult relationships.

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Feeling anxious about how other people view you? Feeling guilty saying no, or speaking your mind? Feeling the need to fix or solve people’s problems in order to feel valuable? Saying yes to too many things and then feeling angry or resentful? You might have some traits of people pleasing, but don’t feel too alarmed because we do too! Kristen and Kristin are talking about their own unresolved people-pleasing tendencies and how it shows up in various aspects of their life. We discuss the roots of people pleasing as an maladaptive coping mechanism and the detrimental impacts people pleasing has on our overall happiness and well being. 

In this episode we discuss:

• Kristin and Kristen discuss how to identify people pleasing behaviors and how it shows up in their personal lifes, too. 

• People Pleasing as a response to trauma and emotional neglect during critical development.

• The impacts of people pleasing on our sense of self, relationships, and physical wellbeing.

• We explore ways to challenge people pleasing behavior and helpful affirmations to rewire thought processes involved in people pleasing. 

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We are catching a breath in this week’s episode and catching up as Kristin comes off trail from her 9 day expedition with See You At the Summit, a therapeutic wilderness expedition designed for teens affected by cancer. Kristin recaps highlights of her experience in the backcountry of Central Oregon guiding a group of teenagers + discusses the most rewarding aspects of facilitating adventure therapy. Kristen and Kristin reflect on the importance of integration from any travel or adventure experience as a way of bringing home the lessons, taking a pause, and intentionally weaving life changing moments into our day to day lives before we’re onto the next trip!

In this episode we explore:

• Kristin recaps her 9 day wilderness expedition facilitating a group of teens from See You At The Summit

• She shares personal and student success stories from the field 

• Kristen and Kristin explore the importance of making time for integration after any big trip, retreat, or new experience. 

• Exploring integration as means of enrichment in our lives and perhaps the reason life changing experiences actually in fact change our lives. 

  

Check out the 2023 trip report and more information about See You At The Summit here.

Having spaces + communities where we can show up authentically and still be accepted and appreciated is an essential piece to our sense of belonging and value in the world. Today we talk with Charlie Sprinkman the Founder of Everywhere is Queer - a world wide map for queer owned businesses. His mission is not only to highlight and uplift the voices of the queer community but also to help create access to safe, comfortable, community spaces whether that is within your own hometown or when you’re off adventuring around the world. 

In this episode we explore:

• Who is Charlie Sprinkman? And more about his inspiration behind Everywhere is Queer.

• The impact that a sense of belonging can have on our perception of self, ideas of what is possible, and how we navigate through the world.

• Charlies shares intimate stories from users of Everywhere is Queer who have found barbershops, photographers, real estate agents, gyms, and more.

• Difficulties behind managing entrepreneurship alongside ADHD / Neurodivergence, burnout, and more. 

 

You can learn more about Everywhere is Queer here.  Follow on Instagram @everwhereisqueeer

It can be hard to imagine your therapist as a real person with vulnerabilities, insecurities, and their own shame and traumas. But we are in fact very human, and often our own struggles that lead us to becoming therapists.

This week we get vulnerable on the podcast and are joined by Leah Chambers, LPC and fellow ex wilderness therapist, artist, writer, daughter, partner, friend. Leah is passionate about rewriting our shame narratives and becoming the hero of our own story. She opens up about her personal shame story rooted in past relationship infidelity and shares more about the difficult, scary, but incredibly rewarding aspects of doing the healing work. 

In this episode we explore:

• What is Shame and why is it so important to understand.

• We can put a “band-aid” on shame, but the roots of healing lie in our wounds and/or traumas

• Shame is a relational wound and must also be healed within relationship.

• Engaging in intentional therapeutic work with or without a therapist can help us in creating new narratives and physically rewiring our brains for new neural pathways and patterns of thinking.

For more information or to get in touch with Leah, email her at: ⁠lchambers@trilliumfamily.org⁠